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Each weekday on our FaceBook page you’ll find a prayer, reflection, or Bible verse centered around a weekly word. Each Friday we will share the recap of our FB posts here on our blog. Our hope is that we band together to devote our pregnancies, birth experiences and parenting to God our creator.
We want this to be a place for all of us to share our hearts, thoughts, blessings and challenges. Please comment and share so that we can together benefit from becoming #devotingmothers.
Two things are flying around my Facebook Feed and just will not die. The first is the story about the tragic Cincinnati Zoo incident. The second is the sharing of the post, “Excuse Me While I Slather My Kids in Toxic Death Cream” from foreverymom.com (great post for some sarcastic perspective BTW). Although very different, they both have me asking, where is the grace?
I’m opinionated as the next girl, but sheesh are we judgmental as a society! My bet is, all of us mommas are feeling it. As soon as you become pregnant you start to feel the pressure of doing it all “right”. How many ultrasounds are enough or not enough? Will you use medical pain relief in labor? Are you eating the healthiest foods? Where will your baby sleep? Will you breastfeed? Will you stay at home, or go back to work?
As soon as that belly starts to show, people will begin to give you their opinions about all of this and more. I have news for you, it doesn’t stop after baby is born. It actually ramps up. Get ready, girls. So when it happens, instead of getting mad, upset, or down on yourself, I want you to hear Your Heavenly Father whisper to you, as He did for Paul as recorded in 2 Corinthians 12:9, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”
For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified freely by His grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.
The term “justification” describes what happens when we believe in Christ as our Savior. God declares us not guilty, even though we, in fact, are. Christ’s sacrifice for us allows us to have a relationship with our perfectly Holy God.
Bottom line: this means that God, our Father, already knows that we are not perfect. So we can stop pretending we are. As mommas, as wives, as friends, we are going to mess up. And, even when we are acting the mess that we are, God loves us. He cares and sees you. Even if those on Facebook, or in your real life, are not giving you grace for your mess, God does. Praise You and thank You, Lord!
Sometimes it’s not the external voices and opinions that hurt the most, but the voice inside you that can be the most condemning. It’s good to want to strive for excellence in all you do, but not at the expense of berating and beating yourself down. We all have bad days, moments we regret, and actions that disappoint us. We are all flawed and human. There is no such thing as “super mom”. She’s a figment of our imagination. And she’d be outright annoying if she really did exist.
So today, give grace to yourself in the moments that fail to be your finest. You are in good company, my friend.
I will never forget staying at a hotel when my daughter was six months old. It was the middle of the night and I could not get her to stop crying. I tried all the baby calming techniques – I tried to comfort her with breastfeeding over and over, I rocked and shushed and did all I knew, but nothing worked. I was a complete, stressful mess.
My mother- in-law was with us. She asked if she could help and within minutes, she had calmed my baby down. You would think that I would have been relieved, but I wasn’t. It felt horrible. I labeled myself a complete failure and cried myself to sleep.
That night I gave myself such an unnecessary guilt trip. Don’t do this momma! Learn from my mistake, and accept that we all have limitations and need help to do the hard job of mothering.
I will hold myself and others to the standard of GRACE, and not perfection.