Each weekday on our FaceBook page you’ll find a prayer, reflection, or Bible verse centered around a weekly word. Each Friday we will share the recap of our FB posts here on our blog. Our hope is that we band together to devote our pregnancies, birth experiences and parenting to God our creator.
We want this to be a place for all of us to share our hearts, thoughts, blessings and challenges. Please comment and share so that we can together benefit from becoming #devotingmothers.
The most prevalent posts on mommy blogs are about our fears.
Will we miscarry?
Are we gaining too much weight?
Is baby getting enough to eat?
Will giving baby all of these vaccines help or hurt?
If baby isn’t crawling yet, is there a problem?
The list goes on and on. It’s easy, and even natural, to get on the worry train and ride it continuously. We live in a culture that seems to love feeding us worry with a never ending news feed of doom and disaster. And then we have Jesus who says just the opposite. We follow Christ who says,
“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?” Matthew 6:25-27
Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7
If we actually live out Paul’s word to the Philippians – girl, we will have some confidence! When worry comes, we don’t roll around in it and let it consume us. No. We tell God what we need with a thankful heart and then stand back.
This isn’t the cocky confidence that we see in the world. This isn’t Kanye West cocky, or NFL dancing in the end zone confidence, or mean girls in high school confidence. This is confidence in Christ as my King. It’s a confidence that exceeds anything we can understand with our earthly perspective. It provides peace.
So, breathe in Christ’s confidence, mommas. As a parent, worries are going to come. It’s what we do with that anxiety that counts. God wants to meet us in our worries, fears, and weakness. It’s where He does His best work.
So humble yourselves under the mighty power of God, and at the right time he will lift you up in honor. Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you. 1 Peter 5:6-7
Sometimes we need a little help in giving up worries and building our confidence as moms. God wants you to turn to Him, it’s your absolute first place to run, but sometimes when we find our mind racing and our worries turning darker, we need to ask others for help. God never intended us to be self sufficient and do life alone. We are to be in a community to help each other.
Maybe you just need another momma to put her arms around you and share that your concerns are normal. Confidence can be restored when you find out that it’s pretty typical to worry about your infant’s irregular, shallow breathing the first few nights home, your baby’s soft skull, or to have some funky dreams about forgetting your baby’s car seat on the road side and driving off (I had that lovely dream repeatedly for the first 2 months of my daughter’s life!)
If your confidence is shaken to the core and you just can’t stop the worries in your head, it may be time to seek help outside of just your momma tribe. It’s a very healthy and responsible thing to do. There’s no shame in saying, “I need some help.” Your doctor or midwife can be a great resource, as well as area hospitals. Christian counselors and support groups are also a fabulous place to turn for perspective and assistance.The important thing is that you reach out. Know that you are not alone. You have a God that cares about you so very much.
And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts Colossians 3:15
I want Your peace to rule in my heart. Help me to have a confidence, not from this crazy world we live in, but from You. Correct me when I’m seeking confidence in anything else, and lead me to people that will help me with my worries.
In Your Name,
“Prayer is bringing your wishes and worries to God; faith is leaving them there.” -Unknown